In the book, The Lying Game, by Sara Shepard, Emma is a girl who is forced to take the place of her dead long lost twin sister. Originally, she had wanted to meet her sister and get to know her, but when she arrived, she received a note that said her sister Sutton was dead, and that if she didn't play along as Sutton, she'd be next. After much investigating, she figured out that one of Sutton's closest friends was probably the killer. This makes me think twice about trusting anyone completely.
The reason it makes me more tentative is because Sutton hadn't really ever thought her friends would kill her. In the book, it said she trusted them with everything from secrets to her latest prank. However, she was totally off guard when they tried to hurt her. For example, the first time they intentionally tried to hurt her by choking her with her own necklace, Sutton had thought, "No one has ever gotten hurt before!" Overall, she let her guard down when she decided to trust people. I'm not saying that no one should be trusted, but we should be careful who you do. Even if you think you know someone well, you can never be sure. Sutton's best friends tried to hurt her after all. This makes me think about stories I hear about someone marrying someone else just to get their money. How many people have multiple personalities like these?
I completely agree with you. I've trusted people before and they just completely betrayed me. Ever since then, I'm very careful in trusting people. This always happens when I try to be friends with someone. I first figure out if they are trustworthy and if they are I become close friends with them. If they aren't trustworthy then I just become friends with them but I don't share personal stuff with them that I don't trust them with. This is something that everyone should do. I know many people who have been betrayed be their very own friends. Some people think that everyone is trustworthy but that's not the case. There are many people in this world that take advantage of your friendship. I really like you post because it displays a very important message and shows an example from a book.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you too Sadia. I see friends all the time making the mistake of trusting someone who betrays them ad shares their information to everyone. Because you mentioned how you have a harder time trusting people now, it makes me think about other books where the main character prefers to be solitary rather than risk people hurting them by betraying their trust. Thanks for opening my eyes even more!
DeleteTrust is such an important thing to have in other people, it makes you feel secure and safe within your world. I wish I was able to trust everyone I know, but as you said Holly, people have their own agendas and we can't always know whats going on in their head, some people just aren't worth it. I would love to hear you elaborate on the point of marrying people for their money. You mentioned it briefly at the end and maybe you could do a follow-up post on what you meant? Anyways, great post, Holly, hope to see more.
ReplyDeleteI also wish that I could trust everyone around us. But like you and I said, you really can't! There are many books that deal with relationships where one runs off with the other person's money that I have read. The next time I read a book like that, I'll be sure to post about it just for you. I'd love to discuss it!
DeleteGreat post, Holly! I also read this book last year, and I thought about the same thing. It is really hard to know who to trust, and it's really scary to think that someone so close to you could betray you like that. Everybody just usually thinks about themselves, and that can be really harmful to people around them. Unfortunately, there is no way to know who is really there for you and who isn't, and we have to trust some people, so we just usually take our best guess. This is a really good post, Holly.
ReplyDeleteThanks Josephine! I wish I knew the key to determining who is good to trust, but I don't. But maybe we can discuss it and brainstorm ways to avoid making these mistakes.
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ReplyDeleteThis was really well written and thought out! I've never read this book but it sounds really interesting and deep. I have those second thought on people occasionally too, but I find that in life, to ever have the chance to live it fully, you have to let your guard down. I love your post, and totally agree, but I think that friends are there to trust, if you never take that chance, you'll never know if they were the right person to have by your side.
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Yeah. I guess life is no fun without some risks. And yes, I think that it is necessary to trust some people, but you should be wary of who you do. Thanks for commenting!
DeleteThis was really well written! I liked how you unpacked the author's "lesson" to the reader. I do think it is important to be careful who you trust. I think you must fully make sure that that person trusts you completely before you trust them. It's okay to trust people as long as you know they trust you too, and won't do anything to hurt you. I loved your response to this book, it made me want to read it. Great job!
ReplyDeleteThanks for commenting! I really think you'd like the book. You also bring up a good point that maybe it's better to have a mutual trust.
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ReplyDeleteNice post! This is buy the same person who wrote "Pretty Little Liars", right? I liked those books, but the author always had an affinity for cheesy stuff, like long lost dead twins, taking the place of that twin... etc.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with your view point though. Even in our school, people let secrets slip when we tell them, and you really can't trust anyone. The thing you should trust is that you can make friends with and get to know people who respect you enough that they'll try not to betray you.
Yeah, making friends is fun and part of life even if not everyone can be trusted. It is the same author, but I haven't read any other of her books. However, after this series, I probably will.
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